Thursday, January 15, 2015

A Clients Journey to Self Acceptance - In Her Own Words

I recently had a boudoir client who sought out a photo session as a step to better self acceptance. 
Since so many women struggle with body issues and low self esteem I asked if she'd share her experience with my readers.  This is her story.

 
"Throughout my entire childhood as well as my adult life, I’ve always despised my physical appearance. I was always the “bigger kid” and today society considers me to be a “plus size” woman. I’ve accepted the fact that because of my body frame, I’ll never be a size 2; nor do I wish to be. Despite this, I still struggle with self-acceptance and suffer from low self-esteem. 
It wasn’t until recently that I came to the realization that I’ve never liked myself, never mind loved myself. This realization quickly spiraled me into a deep depression which resulted in me seeking professional help to try to get to the source of the negative judgments that  I’ve held against myself all of these years and to hopefully figure out a way to get me to see the proverbial  light at the end of my tunnel. It was my therapist who challenged me to do exercises that would gradually help me become more comfortable and accepting of who I am, inside and out. She challenged me to continue to do things outside of my comfort zone, things to keep me on my path to self-acceptance. Because I’ve always had insecurities about my physical appearance, I avoided taking pictures like the plague. 
After some serious thought about what I could do that would be way outside of my comfort zone, I came up with the idea of doing a boudoir photo shoot. I figured go big or go home! While searching the web for boudoir photographers, I came across Stefanie’s site. I immediately fell in love with her work and knew that I didn’t need to look any further. 
Before I could talk myself out of it, I called Stefanie to make an appointment. She was super professional and told me that we could either do a consultation over the phone or in person, whichever made me feel the most comfortable. I opted for the phone consultation. Stefanie was so nice and down to earth and she explained everything that I needed to know about the process and also gave me some great tips. Once we went through everything and after she answered all of my questions (I had a lot,) we scheduled the date of my shoot. 
Up until the day of my shoot, I was full of nerves; but on the day of, I didn’t have any and was ready to go. First up was the application of my makeup and false eyelashes by the fabulous Angela Haringa. I couldn’t believe my transformation, the makeup was flawless! Next, I was on to the first of 4 outfit changes of which Stefanie previously went through with me to help me decide what would look best with what (i.e. shoes, accessories, props etc.) From start to finish Stefanie made me feel so relaxed and comfortable. Because of this I was just able to let loose and have fun! After the shoot, I felt so empowered and confident…I had a blast! 
Shortly after my shoot, Stefanie had my pictures ready to view. When I saw the pictures, I couldn’t believe that it was me that I was looking at. Never in a million years could I have imagined myself looking as amazing as I did!! Stefanie did an unbelievable job and she captured my personality perfectly! 
This entire experience has been very eye opening for me. Not only do I now feel more confident and accepting of myself, but I’ve realized that it’s not a bad thing to try things that you never imagined doing. All of my friends and family are amazed at how “stunning” I look and many of them have asked me if I’m now modeling or if I took the pictures for my portfolio to become a model. At first all of this sounded very bizarre to me because 
1) Although I now feel more confident about myself, it’s going to take some time to re-program my way of thinking after several years of automatically thinking of my physical appearance in a negative light. 
2) I’ve NEVER EVER considered myself to be model material BUT, I have to say that I’m seriously considering looking into modeling! And to just think that all of this came from this one photo shoot, this one life changing experience that I owe all to Stefanie. 
Ladies, if you can relate to my life struggles; I strongly encourage you to do a boudoir photo shoot with Stefanie. You won’t regret it!!"





Tuesday, January 13, 2015

Who does Boudoir and why?

"Oh my god!  I could Never, would Never be able to do a boudoir photography session!"  But you'd be surprised.

I'm often asked who is my typical boudoir client?  The simple answer is that there isn't one.

My clients run the gamut whether it be age, body type or personality.   I've had clients as young as 21 to as mature as 62!   Clients that are full figured and clients that aren't that curvaceous at all.  Clients that are apprehensive, shy and nervous and clients who ooze confidence, although the majority fall in the former category.

Many do it as a gift for their partner, whether it be as a groom's gift, anniversary or birthday present.  More and more women however, come and relish in the experience just for themselves.  Some as a confidence booster, others for self acceptance and many so they can look back in 5, 10 or 20 years and say "Damn I looked good!"

None are supermodels.  None are perfect.  All have flaws and things they are self-conscious about.  But when the session is over and they say "wow, I'm so glad I did this!" It is music to my ears and is what inspires me to provide this feel-good experience to every woman.

So what are you waiting for?

xo
Stefanie



Tuesday, January 6, 2015

Why I am Passionate About Boudoir Photography!

I'm often asked, "How did you get into Boudoir Photography?"  It is a great question as it's a very niche specialty.  I actually branched into boudoir from my maternity photography.  I believe a woman's body is amazing, especially when pregnant.  My maternity clients would leave their sessions feeling beautiful and confident.  Which, lets face it, you don't always feel when you are in your third trimester!

So I started thinking, why not provide this experience for all women?  We all deserve to feel beautiful, sexy and confident!  We should celebrate our beauty & strength.  Society puts so much pressure on women to be "perfect" and tries to hold us up to standards that are completely unobtainable - unless you are a supermodel.  It can be disheartening.

Nothing brings me more pleasure than watching a woman come into her own during a boudoir session.  Really being able to let go and tap into that sensual side.  I pride myself on building trust, communication and really being able to put my clients at ease in front of the camera.  This enables me to capture the best version of you through lighting, posing and most importantly your confident attitude!

My goal is to have you relish your boudoir experience and be empowered by it!  That is what I believe is the most important take away.  Yes, you will have fabulous images and an album to give to your lover, spouse or yourself - but the real gift is for yourself.  Appreciating yourself, flaws and all, and truly feeling beautiful!

XO,
Stefanie


Monday, December 29, 2014

Strappy Little Number . . .

 I was skeptical when I saw this little number on the hanger.  
But WOW!  Who knew such little fabric could do so much.




Friday, December 26, 2014

It's All About The Boots!

There is just something about cowboy boots that is inherently sexy.
Especially if they are all you are wearing.
I LOVED these turquoise boots Miss Amy wore for her boudoir session. 

#thepoutingroom #cowboyboots #boudoirphotography





Monday, December 22, 2014

Valentine's Day Sessions!

I know, I know it's 2 days before Christmas and I'm already talking about Valentine's Day.
Well for those of you who missed out on having a boudoir session for the Holidays you can always do it for him for Valentines Day!

Mention you saw this post and receive $50 off your order, when you book by 2/14/15!
Session must be done by January 31st in order to have an album in hand. 

#thepoutingroom #valentinesday #boudoirphotography





Monday, October 13, 2014

Stunning

Boudoir photography is a very private, intimate experience. 
That said, I am always thrilled when my clients give me permission to use their images.  

Understandably, few do give me such permission.

Miss Katie is stunning.  Don't you agree?